The Way of the Superior Man is often quoted as one of the bibles of masculinity, by many forward thinkers of modern masculinity. I picked up this book as a recommendation from the book Models and was immediately hooked onto the ideas in this book.
The book goes into women, sex, relationships and life purpose. It can come off as too new-agey at times and the book doesn’t really quote any specific study or statistics. It’s not a scientific or academic book. It’s a book outlining general ideas of masculinity and feminity. The book talks about concepts such as gender roles, and the loss of sexual polarity in today’s day and age. It’s a book commonly quoted in the dating coach and advice industry.
One of the central ideas in this book that a man has to put his purpose above his relationships as that’s the true masculine drive.
David Deida goes into concepts such as how to handle criticism from your friends, how you should express your deepest truths to the world and how your purpose in this world should come before a relationship. This can be related to many concepts such a non-neediness, being a people pleaser, woman pleaser, and how dating and relationships are a side effect of an attractive, engaging lifestyle.
The Review of: The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
This book for it outlines the idea of masculinity.
One core concept that I liked in the in the book is that there will never be a completion in life. Modern culture often gets us thinking that there’s a destination to get to, this result, that result, then this job, then that promotion and then one day, we’ll get ‘there’ and it’ll all be awesome. If we got the high paying job, we’ll finally be able to land the hot girl. If we got the Ferrari, finally people will respect us.
This is not true. Life is a process, and there’s no completion. Our problems just get more complicated. Our problems just get better. Furthermore, if you’re not growing, you’re falling back.
I experienced this in my own life when I stopped reading after I was done with the introductory material to psychology, philosophy, business and literature. I merely put books one side and assumed that I had to knowledge to succeed. What a fool I was. There’s unlimited knowledge, books, and wisdom out there that can never be consumed in this lifetime.
Well, just like any other book that’s written along the lines of spirituality and new age ideas, some concepts can be taken too far if taken too literally.
One should take the ideas and concepts as general frameworks perceive the world rather than in a literal sense.
Favourite Quotes from The Way of The Superior Man
“A fearful man who knows he is fearful is far more trustable than a fearful man who isn’t aware of his fear.”
“Men who have lived significant lives are men who never waited: not for money, security, ease, or women. Feel what you want to give most as a gift, to your woman and to the world, and do what you can to give it today. Every moment waited is a moment wasted, and each wasted moment degrades your clarity of purpose.”
“Just remember that self-discipline is not self-suppression. Suppression is when you resist and fight against your desires, keeping them as buried and unexpressed as possible. Self-discipline is when your highest desires rule your lesser desires, not through resistance, but through loving action grounded in understanding and compassion.”
The Way of The Superior Man Overall Book Review
This book gives an overarching structure and model of masculinity and feminity. It might sound all too new-age and woo-woo but I assure you, do give it a read. I promise it’s not the run of the mill new-age self-help-ish book.