Recommended Readings and Influential Books

I decided to compile small recommend reading list.

I’ve read a lot more than these books, however, there are some ideas from some books that just stick with you or inspire you on a day to day basis. I find myself keep going back to the same ones that have an influential impact on my own life.

Recommended Reading for Your Dating Life:

These influences pretty much sum up my philosophy of the site.

1. Models – Mark Manson
2. No More Mr Nice Guy – Robert Glover
3. The Way of the Superior Man – David Deida
4. Readers Letters – The Rawness

The Rawness also gave me a good insight on the psychopathy of the pick up artist who goes down the purist route. I’m not saying there’s no element of ‘pick up’ in dating advice, I’m just saying there’s a lot of unhelpful ideologies and un-researched philosophies in the community.

The majority of ‘picking up’ should be grounded in improving social skills, emotional intelligence and based off values.

Self Development:

1. Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck – Mark Manson

This is Mark’s second book from his first book Models. Insightful read that talks about your values, he does his research based on psychology, and that’s a good thing. I don’t enjoy reading the run of the mill self-help stuff. It’s boring, and you always know the endings. I prefer material that’s backed up by psychology, or is written by someone who has a background in psychology.

Philosophy and Psychology:

1. This Is Water – David Foster Wallace

One of the important mind shifting reads in my life.

2. The Happiness Trap – Russ Harris

Came at the right point of my life, when I felt I was struggling against the world daily. It emphasizes on self-acceptance and mindfulness. Backed up by psychological as well.

3. Denial of Death – Ernest Becker

I didn’t finish the book, due to its tough prose. However, the general ideas in the book left a huge impact on my life. It can be quite a depressing read. However, the ideas are mind blowing.

4. Man’s Search for Meaning – Victor Frankl

This book came at a handy time. I had to find meaning in my pursuits. I was getting sick of getting grades in school just to be ‘useful’ to society, as parents, culture and society told me.

6. A Guide to Psychology and Its Practice

Found this gem in 2017. The author has a PhD in psychology and is a licensed psychotherapist. He writes about genuine anger, identity, loneliness, fear of psychotherapy, self-sabotage from a psychologically researched perspective. It’s a must read.

Finances, Entrepreneurship:

1. 4 Hour Work Week – Tim Ferris

If not for Tim Ferris, there would be no Marcus Social. I wouldn’t be inspired to write and launch this business as a dating coach.

2. Work The System – Sam Carpenter

Changed me from a free loving hippie to someone who organises his personal life, social relationships, business, how I build my wardrobe, in the structure of systems.

3. Charlie Munger’s Worldly Wisdom

I came from an accounting and finance background. I personally think most of the stuff taught in business school isn’t applicable to actual running or business. However, I like Charlie Munger’s articles and thought processes.Just through this one article, if you actually do understand it, you’ll learn a heck more much about business and how to invest than a 3 years degree.

*List To be Updated as I progress.