I’ve read a lot more than these books, however, the ideas from some books stuck with me and I find myself keep going back to the same ones that have an influential impact on my own life.
Dating and Relationships
The first author that influences a lot of my dating and relationship ideas on the site.
Robert Glober is a psychologist that proposes that your ‘niceness’ has it’s roots in your childhood and upbringing.
I normally don’t like the woo-woo self helpish, new agey stuff but David Deida’s, The Way of the Superior Man is a must read.
This book came at a handy time. I had to find meaning in my pursuits. I was getting sick of getting grades in school just to be ‘useful’ to society, as parents, culture and society told me.
The most influential idea I got out of this book is on how negative emotions such as anger, disgust and jealousy actually do have their place in our lives.
Shame, Trauma and Therapy
This is a book that’s backed by research on how your body is affected by shame, trauma and repressed emotions. I liked this book because it’s backed by research, something that’s important to keep in mind in the field of psychology.
This book came at an important time to me when I wasn’t getting anywhere with the superficial style of of behaviorual change, which most of the popular self help books promote. It’s also an introduction to psychoanalysis and how you should treat it more seriously than you think. Your upbringing and childhood has a lot of repercussions down the road in your life then yout hink.
I didn’t finish the book, due to its tough prose. The general ideas in the book left a huge impact on my life. It can be quite a depressing read. However, the ideas are mind blowing.
David Foster Wallace’s commencement speech and how to better perceive the daily struggles of life.
If not for Tim Ferris, there would be no Marcus Social. I wouldn’t be inspired to write and launch this business as a dating coach.
Changed me from a free loving hippie to someone who organises his personal life, social relationships, business, my wardrobe, in the structure of systems.
Written by Ramit Sethi, a huge influence in my life, introduces you personal finance from a psychologically validated stand point. The best book on personal finance out there, and everything you need to know about the basics of investing: index funds etc.
Steve Jobs is one heck of a controversial leader who pushed the boundaries of buiness and technology in his time. When I read this I was kind of ashamed at how meaningless my life, and my pursuit of the ‘Singaporean success’ was.