I flirted with pick up artist techniques when I chanced upon the book ‘The Game Neil Strauss’ off the local bookstore when I was 19 years old. I had just came out of a disastrous breakup I was reeling in depression, self-victimization, hurt, and anger.
I felt like that for a long time.
Learning Pick Up Artist Techniques and Entering the Community
It was as if I picked up the bible. I was hooked on the idea that you could do something about your luck with girls. I was hooked on the idea that as long as you did certain things, you could get a girl in bed. It like a formula to sex.
I would then go on to spend all the free time I had in the military reading up on dating advice material after another. I read up on everything on attracting girls, self-help, entrepreneurship, psychology, philosophy and was determined to turn my life around.
I remembered that I “negged” a girl and she laughed. It was exhilarating at first. Girls are actually finally finding me funny now! After all, a girl laughing meant she was interested in you right? Well, she stopped texting me on the phone in a few days. Months passed, I still wasn’t getting kisses or sex or anything of that sort, however, I just felt more empowered socially.
I eventually got desperate and emptied half my savings at 19 years old and hired a dating coach that promised a “Singaporean method” to finally get the girl. Eventually, through the system of accountability, a lot more weird stares and embarassing moments, I got my first taste of success. I started dating more girls, slept with some of them.
My notch count was getting higher. I prided myself knowing these little secrets that nobody knew. I didn’t really go around telling my friends what I was on to either, cause I tried and some of them will just laugh it off. Eventually, after repeated success with girls after a couple of months it was “proof” that these pick up artist techniques and theories worked.
Just like that, I floated in and out of this sub culture over the next couple of years…
July 2018 Update: I moved the site, and the full article is here.